Andrew and Sarah, two young, lovely, joyful persons who went to the same university. Sarah has beautiful, blue eyes which Andrew thinks world’s best. These wonderful eyes were the reason for which Andrew fell in love with Sarah. And why Sarah? She loved the way how Andrew praised her beauty, his compliments, his madness.
John and Richa worked in the same organization. They were good colleagues and also good friends. They loved spend time together after office or in free time. They felt comfortable while talking to each other since most of the time their mentality, way of thinking matched. They never run short of topic while talking. And eventually they discovered they are in love with each other.
Leo, a heart-broken, lonely guy, was so frustrated that he badly need someone to share his sorrows, to get relief from his loneliness, and one day, eventually, found a girl named zeny in a social media. zeny is a very sympathetic, simple, kind-hearten girl. She could not remain indifferent after hearing Leo’s sad story. She sighed, “Ahh! what a poor guy!” Gradually they started spending more time chatting with each other. A feeling of dependency grew between them. And finally, they fell in love.
Why do people fall in love?- a very common question though the answer of which is not that simple. Human psychology is very complex and varies with person to person. The thing becomes much more complex when love is involved in the scene. Love, though a sweet and heavenly feelings, is very complicated at the same time. And for this very reason, the question “Why do people fall in love?” cannot be answered from a common ground or in general.
For this, we find different stories of falling in love of different couples around the world. For example, if we try to observe the three stories stated in the first part, we will find various factors those worked behind falling in love for these three different couples, six different persons.
For Andrew, Sarah’s beautiful appearance especially her blue eyes was the reason. On the other hand, Sarah, in deep of her mind, loves to be praised which she got from Andrew. Similarity in mentality and way of thinking have worked great for the second couple, John and Richa. In Leo‘s case, he desperately needed someone to get rid of his loneliness; and zeny, stimulated by her sympathetic mind, went forward to help a broken heart guy.
The reasons or factors are not always a product of conscious minds. Sometimes one might meet a person, spend some time together, unconsciously any factor matched and then consequently s/he realize a feeling of love inside him or her for the person.
A number of different theories of love have been proposed by Psychologists and researchers . According to them, love is a very basic human emotion which is not so easy to understand why and how it happens. Compassionate love and Passionate love are the two basic types of love.
The important features of Compassionate love are mutual respect, attachment, affection, and trust. Elements of passionate love are intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection.
If we think deep or try to dig out human psychology, some psychological factors can be found which play important role singularly or sometimes collectively to make people fall in love, like:
Every human being desire to be happy in life. When someone’s presence, company, behavior or activity create a feeling of happiness in you, it’s very natural that you will want to spend more time with that very person, even that can be your life time. Such a desire can automatically make you fall in love with that person.
No living being like to live alone. S/he needs a trusted company who will never let him/her feel lonely, with whom s/he can spend his/her leisure times. This hatred for loneliness is an important factor that stimulate one to fall in love.
Sharing is another important factor for which people fall in love. There are so many personal emotion, information that you want to share with whom you trust. You might share them either to get relieved or to get some suggestion about what to do when you are in dilemma on a decision. When in the path of life, you find someone with whom you can share all your emotion without any hesitation, a feeling of love might grow.
It is said that love is caring for each other even when we are angry. Caring means giving you attention with priority or high importance, taking care of even the smallest thing of you. It feels so comfortable when we know that there is someone in this world who care about me.
Similarities of characteristics is very important for a loving relationship. Just Imagine, you are a jolly girl who loves to make fun and hangout a lot. You met two boys named “A” and “B”. A does not like making fun and hang out. He is a bit boring to you because he never gives you time, and always busy with serious task, such as business. on the contrary, B is more or less similar to you who loves to have fun ,very jolly and enjoy hang outing. Will you fall in love with “A” ? another important factor is, Similarities may make it easier for partners to understand each other.
We enjoy the feeling of being desired. Most of the time, we want someone who likes us back truly, madly and deeply. Need fulfillment: We have lots of dream in our life .we might not be successful in fulfilling them alone. We fall in love with the one who help/motivate/encourage us to achieve such dreams. X-factor : Some people want to be praised and famous in any way. This is why they tend to fall in love with the people who have X-factors in them or who has a possibility of being famous in future.
Sometime we feel that we are both physically and psychologically ready to make a relationship. This thinking make us intentionally fall in love.
Physical appearance plays very important role in some cases for falling in love. Specially teen couple fall in love at first sight only because of attractive outlook. But After attaining maturity, people learn appreciate good humanity over good outlook.
Sometimes, in some cases, sympathy results in love. An air of mystery : Sometime we really don’t know what we want and do, why do we fall in love with someone. Human brain is really full of mystery.
Some Wired Reasons:
- A finding of University of Southern California study is that when women are ovulating, the smell of t-shirts worn by men with high levels of testosterone insists them to fall in love.
- University of Massachussets psychologist Joan Kellerman found that if you stare into each others’ eyes for two minutes, you have the chance of feeling of passionate love and affection towards the other person.
- According to Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University’s psychologist, Wayne E. Hensley ‘Taller men do enjoy a noticeable dating advantage,’
- Some people , specially teenagers, fall in love only to flow with the current fashion or to show s/he too has a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Are you in love with someone ? Would you mind if I ask you to consider to share your own opinion from your experiences regarding “Why do people Fall in Love with him/her”? It will be a great information for others.